Tolerating Impossible People

The Randy Lane Company • November 23, 2014

By Jerry Del Colliano, Inside Music Media

We’re sharing Jerry’s blog that speaks to everyone involved in radio shows who encounter talented but difficult people. It also speaks to on-air talent who sometimes encounter frustrating management styles and challenging clients. It is a good reminder to show empathy for all the confused, flawed souls we encounter each day, including ourselves. – Jeff McHugh

The Dalai Lama has a suggestion that really works.

Think of everyone as a young child.

Doing that allows you to be more patient and understanding with the people in your lives and dealing with their issues that may be affecting you.

Imagine the compassion that most of us automatically have for young children that we do not have for adults who make us miserable.

Once we think about the things that compel other people to cause unhappiness we can’t help but to be more compassionate.

Use the patience we have with children to understand the motivation of those who are seemingly impossible.

This approach is far superior to trying to change people (which never works) or calling them out for their shortcomings.

By seeing impossible people as a young child, they seem less threatening and allow us to understand the behavior that often upsets us.

You can sign up for Jerry’s blog updates at www.jerrydelcolliano.com/blog.

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